5 Things I Didn’t Expect About Pregnancy and Birth During a Pandemic

I remember staring in shock at my pregnancy test. It was March of 2020, and the pandemic had finally made it’s way to the U.S. states and territories. I had been so busy at work managing multiple projects and then jumping into the intial pandemic response that I had missed all the tell-tale signs.

The brain fog, lethargy, increasing irritability. All things I had blamed on work and the impending doom and gloom of COVID-19. How the heck was I going to make it through this pandemic with first responder responsibilities, children, and now a pregnancy.

I’m not going to lie to you — 2020 was the most challenging year of my entire life. It brought the need for self-care to a whole other level. Here’s what I learned about being pregnant during a pandemic.

Things I Absolutely Weren’t Prepared For

Delayed anxiety response to events. As an expecting mom, you worry about everything. You have to learn what foods to avoid and what to eat more of. You need to check on whether that one glass of wine is really okay. And you learn to be extra vigilant about avoiding people during the flu season.

Being pregnant during the COVID-19 pandemic put my anxiety on overdrive. On top of all the regular worries, now here’s the threat of a new, dangerous bug to try to keep away from myself and my child. I would say my regular pregnancy anxiety definitely doubled this time around.

But how it often manifested was different than before. Because I had to keep it together to maintain life and sanity for my kids, I ended up shuffling all of my emotions away from sight in a secret little box in my head. And ever so often, the box will overflow, and the overwhelm would literally take my breath away.

My advice to you is not to do this. Find a way to process the emotions you are going through every single day. These are tough times, and we really need to do more to take care of ourselves and reach for support from others.

Devastating loss of community. One of the best things about being pregnant is sharing your news with family and other loved ones. People want touch and hold you. Little ones love feeling the baby kick. There are parties, photoshoots, and showers and other various forms of celebrations.

Unfortunately, COVID almost completely wiped that away. The sense of community and togetherness created by an unborn child was stifled by the requirements of social distancing. I have never felt as isolated during a pregnancy as I had this last year.

Each of my pregnancies was a huge deal! I visited people and had visitors often. Even at birth my room was filled with family and a friend or two. And as soon as my child was vaccinated (yes, I’m THAT mom), I made sure to place them in the arms of many loved ones for previously forbidden hugs, snuggles, and photoshoots.

I missed my pregnancy and birth routines cultivated to create connections with my little one and my loved ones.

What I wished I had done differently was to get over my dislike of the phone and disinterest in social media to share more of my days while pregnant with my friends. If you’re a pregnant mom reading this, consider doing these things if you aren’t already. And maybe zoom video party calls with your loved ones. It really does make a difference.

Things I Got Secretly Depressed About

Visiting the doctor by myself. Because of my husband’s high risk job, and because of the limitations put into place at various businesses, I went to every single one of my doctor’s appointments by myself. Every OBGYN visit, ultrasound visit, lab visits . . . everything.

Of course, if I absolutely needed his support at any one of those events, we would have found a way to make it work. But we couldn’t justify unnecessarily exposing others to COVID for simple checkups. And it was also more important for him to stay with our older children.

Instead, I recorded and sent him pictures anytime I could.

Still, if you’re unable to go to visits with your partner or supportive loved one, consider recording the events. Take tons of pictures of you in the lobby, in the waiting room before the doctor comes in, leaving the appointment. And make sure to record the ultrasound and first time hearing the heartbeat of your little one.

Don’t underestimate how these little things can help buffer the distance a bit.

Needing little to no maternity clothes. This could be seen as a plus by more frugal moms. But, I absolutely love being pregnant, and wearing maternity clothes is so much fun. Unfortunately, with all the limitations on social distancing and the ability to work from home, there was no way to really justify a new wardrobe.

Instead, I had six solid pieces of clothing I mixed and match to get me through my pregnancy. I had four dresses, two sleeveless tops, and two stretch pants. And I hardly got to wear any of them, wearing one dress only about five times, mainly to appointments.

I relied a lot on accessories to change up my looks, and think I did a pretty great job. But, looking back, I could’ve bought a couple more outfits, even if to wear at home.

My advice to you if you’re in this predicament is to not be wary of dressing up and looking your best at home. Rather than see it as a waste of money, I should have seen it as an opportunity to pamper myself and celebrate my little one. I probably would have had the desire to take and share more pictures if I had done so in the first place.

Drive-by Baby Shower Treats

The #1 Thing That Made Me Smile

People who love you always find a way. This was a very different pregnancy than my two previous experiences. As I mentioned, one of the biggest things for me is folding into my community during pregnancy. And while I hate being put in the spotlight, I always enjoy looking back on my baby shower events.

But, just because we couldn’t have a traditional baby shower doesn’t mean I didn’t celebrate with my friends.

Although my husband is terrible at secrets, he worked with a good friend of mine to plan a drive-by baby shower! I knew something was going, but had no idea what the event really was.

Following instructions, I got dressed up, and stood by the door. Soon, along with the sound of celebratory music, I heard the tell-tale tooting of horns as a motorcade of cars driven by my best of friends drove down my street.

They had made a lovely banner, and dropped off cake, cookies, and gifts for the baby. They came in masks and with sanitizers to quickly share their love and well-wishes before heading back home for the day. I was touched beyond belief at how thoughtful, kind, and considerate they all were.

So don’t you worry too much. Because even if the worst of times, the people you love can find little ways to help you keep your spirits up.


What about you? Did you or a loved one experience pregnancy and a birth during the pandemic? Comment below and share your own experience and advice.

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3 Essential Tips for Keeping Your Sanity During the COVID19 Pandemic

It is hard being a working mom during the COVID-19 pandemic, especially as I am considered an essential worker…

Believe you me, I am exhausted.

Where I live, we are at the very beginning of the infection curve. In other words, we are just starting to get COVID-19 cases. But I am already drained and am seriously wondering how I am going to get through another 2 months of this.

Both my husband and I are “essential workers”, which means, no sheltering-in-place for us. So somehow, we have to juggle life with two kids, full-time jobs…and no form of childcare whatsoever.

I don’t want to sound ungrateful…

I know many people have, are, and will continue to lose their livelihood as this pandemic progresses. We are blessed to be able to still pull in both incomes from a dual-income household.

But we are also worried about being exposed to the virus in our work activities and, even worse, bringing it home to our kids. Yes, kids are the not super high at risk, but tell that to the parents of those in the 1%.

Plus, our local healthcare system is still devastated from recent natural disasters. The reality of them becoming super overwhelmed extremely quickly is very real.

On a lesser but still stressful note, even with two full-time jobs, we have now become full-time teachers for both our kids, one of which has 3 separate homework packages due to current educational needs.

And, let’s just say my part-time business is crawling along…very limply.

So, every day now, I focus on doing three things to get through it all: remembering my value-based priorities, protecting my energy, and sticking only to reputable and necessary news for COVID-19 updates.

I discuss a bit more in detail below how doing these three things are helping me, and could possible help you too.

TIP #1 – Remember your value-based priorities.

The pandemic has almost everyone scared, worried, and anxious. And as a result, it threatens to take over every single moment of our waking thoughts. To combat this a bit, what I’ve been doing is focusing on my priorities before COVID-19.

Of course, at first I had to outline plans to prepare my family to shelter in place for a pretty long time. But after those preparations, it was time to gather myself again…even just a little bit.

Previously, I talked about my priorities based on my values. I realized that they are (1) spending quality time with family and friends, (2) having a healthy working life, and (3) having time for just myself.

So yes, even though we are in the middle of a pandemic, my overarching values haven’t changed, and neither do my pandemic-preparation priorities conflict with my value-based ones.

Now, everyday I focus on the joy of being able to spend time with family. I also make sure to connect with other loved ones at least once a day.

I love my job and my business, so with that priority, I make sure to balance the load there as well. I cannot and do not say yes to everything, and am very vocal about resources that are needed to continue to fight the good fight.

When I am home with my kids, I only respond to absolute work emergencies and I make that clear to my team. And I have cut back on part-time business hours a bit as exhaustion ruins my creativity anyhow. I refuse to beat myself up about any of it and acknowledge that we are all pretty much doing the best we can.

And I am not apologetic about asking for a few moments for myself. Thankfully, my husband has been doing a great job balancing the load and helps me find a bit of down time to recover from it all.

Remembering my priorities, especially as they are tied to my core-values and innate happiness, has helped ease a lot of the pandemic-related stress.

TIP #2 – Protect your energy by any means necessary.

The most important thing for me at this time is to protect my energy. I do this by making sure that I am taking my multi-vitamins every day, eating as well as possible and on time throughout the day, and getting to sleep on time.

I also have cut back on time spent navigating through apps on my phone. I have done this a lot before, but realized that my anxiety had me slipping back to relentlessly checking for anything I may have “missed”.

With the kids, I have relaxed a lot of my expectations with them having a rigid schedule or only certain hours of television time. Truth be told, I am happy as long as there is a good enough mix of physically and mentally stimulating activities during the day.

It may be a bit easier for me though because my kids are very naturally active (absolutely genetic, nothing to do with my “greatness” as a mom…I lucked out). So they love running up and down and doing tons of hands-on activities, many times without prompting.

Overall, as a still-working momma, it is just very important to cultivate good, healthy energy levels to battle the inevitable anxiety caused by the unknowns of the unfolding coronavirus pandemic. It also helps because of the extra energy expended to meet increased parenting and work-related responsibilities.

TIP #3 – Stick only to reliable and necessary news alerts.

This is partially a protection of energy, but it is such an important tip that it deserves its own section.

We are being inundated with news and social media posts about the coronavirus pandemic. And too much of it is often very misleading, sensationalized, or completely untrue.

Coronavirus is not man-made. Stay away from conspiracy theories. Here’s the truth as of today. The coronavirus is not man-made. Period. Diseases have existed since the beginning of time. There is no perfect world where diseases do not exist, no perfect period of time where people have not died from disease. Period.

Here’s the truth about the numbers. Most people (80%) with coronavirus will experience mild symptoms, and completely recover. Most of the remaining 20% will be hospitalized with severe symptoms…but recover with adequate healthcare. And a smaller percentage will unfortunately pass away (mainly because of underlying conditions…some just because sometimes life totally sucks). And yes, the virus primarily affects elderly folks, although no age group is immune.

Is that a good thing? No. Absolutely not.

Any death from a disease is one death too many. And too many people needing medical care at one time will crash our medical system—which affects everybody. (So, yes, social distancing is a necessary evil in these times.)

Here are some other truths: Yes, washing hands frequently help. Yes, we need to leave N95s for actual healthcare personnel. Yes, people may be asymptomatic and still spread the virus (hence, social distancing). Yes, coronavirus can stay on surfaces for several hours, even days outside of the body (hence, frequent cleaning and social distancing).

So what should you do as a responsible parent and adult? Stick to trusted news and advice.

To help us sensibly navigate these difficult times, the Centers for Disease Prevention and Control and the World Health Organization have created COVID-19 webpages with tons of useful information.

And also consider signing up for your local news alert on how COVID19 is impacting your state and bordering locations.

It is best to focus on getting the best and most reliable information to guide your own actions, and to protect you and your family during this pandemic.


Wishing everyone reading this a safe and healthy time during this pandemic.

See you on the other side of this thing.

(And don’t forget to comment below if you have any other tips you think can help someone else.)

5 Best Podcasts for Busy Moms

Know that recent movie everyone has been talking about? Fallen from Grace?

Yea…me neither.

That’s because I am too busy to watch shows. I subscribe to Netflix, Hulu, and Amazon Prime.

And you know how much I get to use them every month? Less than 2 hours…for the entire month. And definitely not in consecutive blocks of time.

The tighter my schedule became because of kids, work, and running a business, the less time I had to devote to watching shows.

And mehn…I miss binging on HBO and ABC shows.

But, remember where I talked about re-aligning your schedule to match your priorities? Well, after doing that, I had to sacrifice my television time…for now.

To fill that void, I have become a hard core Audible fan (which I mentioned in my favorite things for moms list). But most recently, I have fully subscribed to the world of podcasts.

Now, I hate talk radio. I’ve always hated talk radio. Interrupting my song and dance to chat was the most grating thing for me ever. And before, I really felt that I would hate podcasts just like I did talk radio.

But, I don’t. Suprisingly, I absolutely love them and can’t imagine how I survived without them before. The freedom of being both entertained and informed on-the-go is key to my peace of mind.

So if you’re a busy mom like me, missing your favorite types of shows, here is a list of podcasts for your listening enjoyment.

1. NPR Podcasts

Specifically, The NPR Politics Podcast.

Ok, disclaimer: I am actually not that much into politics. But, as a responsible adult and mother of future voters, I have to do a better job paying attention to that world.

I mean, come on. I blinked and ended up in the most…interesting…presidency in the history of America.

That’s where the NPR Politics Podcast comes in.

The daily podcast provides highlights in politics every day, with a good dose of humor mixed in with factual insights. I appreciate their ability to provide content mostly bias-free.

I especially appreciate that they do so in bite-size doses, with episodes ranging from 15 to 20 minutes on average.

This podcast keeps me abreast of US politics without eating up tons of time. It is a win-win in my book.

2. The Daily Show with Trevor Noah: Ears Edition

Just saying the name of this podcast cracks me up. I absolutely adore Trevor Noah. Granted, The Daily Show is very biased in all things politics (not saying I disagree, but opinions are clearly, unapologetically made). But Trevor has the right dose of humor to make each news item pretty memorable.

The show presents the most interesting news in America at the time, and invites very influential guest speakers to discuss their latest projects or controversies. Just recently, Oprah Winfrey was a guest on this show.

The humor can be a bit crude, so be aware of that. But it definitely gets my seal of approval for busy mom listening, especially as the episodes also tend to be on the shorter side.

Subscribe if you can handle the raunchy flavor of the show, but make sure not to listen with little ears around. And it’s definitely NSFW (not safe for work).

3. The Double Shift

Recently I found myself needing a little outside perspective on motherhood. A quick search brought me to the podcast The Double Shift, and another one (Big Little Choices) that I’ll talk about in a bit.

The podcast focuses on this generation of working moms, and the unique challenges they face. The first episode starts of with rocker mom Louisa who is balancing her love of the band life with parenthood.

What I love about this podcast is that (so far) these women don’t necessarily just subscribe to what society expects of them as women and mothers. Instead, they are paving their own paths to best achieve the goals and vision of their new selves and their family life.

If you need some inspiration breaking through the parenting status quo, check this podcast out.

4. Big Little Choices

Big Little Choices is the other mom/parenting podcast that I enjoy listening to. The podcast’s creator Sri Bodanapu began this venture after realizing that, regardless of the abundance of parenting information and advice, only making the choices that felt authentic to herself brought her confidence and peace of mind about her decisions as a mom.

Along the same vein, this podcast takes a look at very diverse communities of parents all making big little choices of their own. They discuss their insecurities, the reason behind their choices, and how their hard decisions have impacted their lives.

Listening to this podcast reminds me that parenting is a series of decisions and imperfect actions, especially unique to each individual. And at the end of the day, most of us have no idea what we’re doing, but we are doing the absolute best we can anyway.

5. Online Marketing by Amy Porterfield

Number 5 on my list is Online Marketing by Amy Porterfield.

As a working mom-preneur with 1-year-old business, I am pretty much still learning the ropes of effective marketing. There are plenty of marketing podcasts out there–trust me, I have listened to quite a few. But I have found few as interesting as Amy Porterfield’s.

Amy provides easily digestible nuggets of marketing information in a friendly, easy-on-the-ears, and bubbly manner. Her podcasts usually seem to run 30 to 50 minutes, but I actually never really notice because it feels like I am listening to an old friend.

She seems pretty down-to-earth and provides actionable advice in a non-condescending way. This makes it pretty easy for beginners like me to get moving without feeling belittled or overwhelmed.

From lessons learned to key tips on digital marketing strategies to build your business, Amy’s podcast comes highly recommended. If you are a mom-preneur, be sure to check it out!


So that’s it, a quick round up of my current list of podcast favorites.

What about you? Do any of these fall on you list? Or do you have suggestions of your own.

Comment below and let’s discuss!

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How to Workout with a Super Busy Schedule

I have finally started working out again, although not quite on my own terms. Sadly, I have gained 50 pounds over the last 10 years. And that’s after working out really hard to lose 30 lbs before then.

It’s hard figuring the time to workout consistently as a busy career mom, but I promise you it is achievable. In this post, I will share with you my personal challenges with weight loss, and what I have started to do to address it.

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10 Famous Quotes Every Parent Should Know

Parenting quotes are some of my favorite things to reflect on, especially when I am experiencing a particularly challenging day as a mom.

They bring me great insight into the problem at hand, or at least improves my mood and my sense of humor about being a parent.

Out of the hundreds of quotes I have come across, these are the 10 quotes that I believe every parent should read, appreciate, and keep on hand.


“Never do for a child what he is capable of doing for himself.”

Elizabeth Hainstock, author, educator

Seeing your child grow up is bittersweet. Of course you want them to become independent individuals, but you also miss the sweet moments snuggling in their soft little necks, cradling them in your arms.

Still, the joy at seeing my kids learn to do things on their own is rivaled only by their hugs and I-love-You’s. Stuff like tying their own shoelaces, putting on their own pull-ups, feeding themselves with a spoon.

I made the mistake with my eldest son of not realizing that it was okay for him to try being more independent much earlier—even if that meant bigger messes and later mornings.

But by stepping back and giving him room to grow, his confidence also grew by leaps and bounds.

Letting your child do for his/herself is sometimes hard, but it is one of the best things we can teach our children.


“I came to parenting the way most of us do — knowing nothing and trying to learn everything.”

— Mayim Bialik, actress and neuroscientist

As a new mother, I quickly realized I had no real idea about what I was doing. No matter the number of articles and books I had read on parenting, nor the lessons I thought I picked up from being parent-ed.

It truly was a learn-on-the-job type of training.

Every day of being a mom is a learning experience. I never know in advance the full picture of my children’s needs and wants.

They could wake up in the best and most cooperative mood, making the morning routine a complete breeze. Or they can be moody and uncooperative, refusing to eat anything, or put on their carefully laid out clothing.

They may be running a fever though they were perfectly fine the night before. Or maybe they came home from school sad because a friend said something mean.

Every moment of the day is unpredictable. And how I need to respond for each child can vary widely. Being a parent means dedicating yourself to growing and learning everyday.


“Everyone should have kids. They are the greatest joy in the world. But they are also terrorists. You’ll realize this as soon as they’re born, and they start using sleep deprivation to break you.”

— Ray Romano, actor and comedian

This is one of those quotes that are hilarious, but also very accurate. Kids are amazing. They are my greatest joy. But they are little destroyers.

It was only when my eldest son turned 9 that I realized I hadn’t actually had a full night’s sleep in almost a decade. Between my parent anxieties and his sleepwalking and restlessness, my sleep was consistently disturbed night after night.

When my littlest one came along, he was a hyperactive little bundle of energy. Unlike his brother, who was deceptively calm and easygoing for the first half of his life, little Idris was a true terror.

He ran, jump, and hurdled his little body everywhere. He was loud and demanding…and still is as evidenced by the roaring lion that runs past my back as I type.

And the list of items that have been broken and destroyed by their antics are too numerous (and painful) to mention.

Kids are terrorists…but they are the most loveable bunch of you’re sure to ever meet.


“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.”

― Benjamin Spock, pediatrician

Okay, I know this seems in direct contradiction to Myam Bialik’s quote, but stay with me here because it really isn’t.

Before becoming a parent, you think you know everything. How patient and supportive you will be. How you will never have a child that throws a tantrum, embarrassing you in the middle of the busy food aisle.

Then you become a parent, and all your preconceived notions fly out the window. You think to yourself, “I actually don’t know jack about this gig.”

But, let’s take a step back.

Yes, it’s true that you really just learn as you go. But the way you know whether you are making good decisions for you and your family is because you actually do know more than you think.

If you are an attentive and loving parent, then you know that Johnny is fussing because he wants his binky. You know that your child is throwing a tantrum in the food aisle because they missed their nap time. You know that Janet is giving you a hard time with her math homework because she feels that she’s not a smart enough kid to figure things out.

You know that you have to do a 3-step good-by routine before dropping Shaun off to daycare makes the day better and easier for him and his caregivers. You know that a kid-friendly early morning workout helps keep your energetic child focused and easier to handle throughout the day.

And you know that a 30-minute television break after school helps Brittany focus better on her chores and homework after school.

Pay attention to the individual needs of each of your kids and trust your instincts. If something feels wrong with a parenting choice and vice versa, then it most likely is.


“My worst parenting moments, the ones I am least proud of, happened because I was trying to impress a bunch of strangers I’ll probably never see again.”

— Janel Mills, blogger

As an 80’s baby, I grew up in a period where parents strongly believed that their children were a direct reflection of themselves…and their parenting style.

Because of this, parents (like mine) were “embarrassed” whenever their children displayed less than perfect behavior. A child received extra discipline if they stained the family name by misbehaving at school, church, grocery stores, public events, etc.

As a mom, I vowed never to discipline my child solely for the benefit of others, strangers or otherwise. And this has made a huge difference with how I interact with my kids both at home and in the presence of others.

Whenever either of my kids were “acting up” while we were out, I found myself starting to react because of how other’s were perceiving my mothering style.

That initially reaction made me what to lash out and loudly chastise my children to “get them in control”. It wanted me to be harsh and unforgiving. It wanted me to forget that children are sometimes just that…children.

They don’t have the advantage of the years we do as adults to learn to restraint and control. We are teaching them this, but they won’t be perfect at it for a very long time.

As I pull myself from the brink of hulk-smash parenting mode, I remind myself that my parenting style is not and should never be solely dictated by others.

And each and every time I have reflected on my personalized style of parenting that works for my family, I may feel burnt out and frazzled, but I do not feel embarrassed at how I responded to my own children.

Don’t let strangers dictate how you interact with your child. Be an attentive, loving, and open-minded parent, but don’t let your actions be directed by people who have zero investment in your little ones.


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The best way to keep children at home is to make the home atmosphere pleasant, and let the air out of the tires.”

Dorothy Parker, poet, writer, critic, and satirist 

This is also another funny quote that is 100% on the money.

I remember when returning back home from school my mom offered for me to live with her. Now, don’t get me wrong, I love my mom.

She raised her kids by herself without any real support system for half of her parenting years. Her authoritative parenting style, however, does not resonate well with my personality. We never really developed a deep mother-daughter connection, and I sought independence at a very early age. Living with her as an adult was not in the least bit an exciting thought.

Although this quote is talking about kids that are a bit younger, the lessons I learned from being a child that wanted to get away sticks with me today. They remind me that I want to do things a bit differently with my kids.

So for me, I create an environment where my kids not only feel safe, but always loved. That they feel interesting as a person, not just based on what they can achieve.

I spend time talking to my kids about their days and nights, so that when they grow up they still feel like I am someone they can connect with. I give them their space to learn what they like and don’t, and learn how to interact with their peers in a low-pressure setting.

Neither of my kids are teenagers as yet, but I hope I am balancing love, mentorship, and discipline enough to keep them from running away from me and home until it really is time for them to spread their wings.

And I hope they’ll at least want to visit me on special occasions because they really miss me, not just out of obligation.


“Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.”

— James Baldwin, novelist, playwright, essayist, poet, and activist

Truer words never spoken James.

Children are such pains in the butts. You can tell Charles a hundred times not to jump off the sofa…and I can guarantee you will have to tell him the same exact thing a hundred more times after.

It is funny how kids just impulsively do things. On more than one occasion I have asked Axel why he did something—like maybe broken a piece of furniture or a pair of headphones. Imagine my shock when he looked at me the first time and says with complete confusion and honest, “Mom…I don’t know.”

But even if a child doesn’t listen to you most times, you better believe they are always watching you.

They are watching how you talk to others, how you behave while under stress, how you show love, anger, and other emotions. They are watching and learning from your behavior.

Which is why as parents we need to model how we want our children to behave. Because they will always do a better job consistently following your behavior than your words.

It reminds me of a time that my son began shouting at his classmates when “instructing them” in class. I realized then that I had been raising my voice recently in the house, screaming instructions rather than having discussions like I had before.

I immediately worked on correcting that behavior on my part, and discussing with my son the proper tone in which to speak with others. Of course, he only really understood what I meant when I displayed this “proper” behavior.

Remember, your little terrorists are always watching. Model the behavior that you want them to learn.


“Everybody knows how to raise children, except the people who have them.”

— P.J. O’Rourke, political satirist and journalist

Oye. Sad to say it, but I was definitely one of these people.

You know them, the Mr. and Ms. Know-it-alls. They look down their noses at you if your kid hits another kid on the playground. Or they know exactly what you need to do to get your child to bed on time, sleeping through the night, before the kid even breaks the 3-month mark.

These are the people that are certain about all of the tings you are doing wrong with your child, and also certain that they have the formula all figured out. Because, you know, parenting is just as easy as 1 + 1 = 2.

Oh, did I forget to mention…none of them actually has children of their own.

Like Bialik implied above, we come to parenting really knowing nothing—definitely knowing much less than we thought we did. But to lightly rephrase Spock’s quote as well, we can trust that we will figure it out.

So yes, the world around you will judge you at times, will express little faith in your ability to properly raise your children. But do your best to figure it out day-by-day and you’ll be fine.

Leave the holier-than-thou non-parent parenting experts in their own little bubbles. Besides, life will squarely hit them in the face one day…just like it did me.


“It is time for parents to teach young people that in diversity there is beauty and there is strength.”

Maya Angelou, author, actress, screenwriter, dancer, poet and civil rights activist

As an American mom of brown babies, the challenges that we face due to issues with diversity are huge.

And people are not just being judged according to the color of their skin, they are also being judged because of their relationship preferences, gender identification, political beliefs, religious beliefs, cultural origins, able-bodiness, and much more.

It is definitely the time for parents to teach the beauty about diversity and inclusiveness. But I argue that it is actually pass time for us to do so.

Just look at the world around you. The beauty in a field of flowers are the various shapes, sizes, and colors of those fields. The variety of creatures they attract, their critical role they play in environmental balance.

There is beauty and strength in diversity, much beyond even our wildest imaginations, if we all just open ourselves up to the possibilities.


One thing I had learned from watching chimpanzees with their infants is that having a child should be fun.”

— Jane Goodall, primatologist and anthropologist

I love this quote so very much that I wanted to end this post on it.

Being a parent is hard. I feel that is especially hard for us working moms in these modern times.

We struggle every morning with getting our kids ready and out the door while we head to work and school.

We struggle with homework, career needs, homemaker activities, and maintaining our own adult relationships.

We struggle with potty training, bedtimes, brushing teeth, dinner menus, and tantrums.

But even with all of this on our plate (and more), we should never forget that having children should be fun. That being a parent should be fun.

In between it all, let’s remember to have fun with this gig. Instead of always focusing on everything that needs to be done, remember to enjoy your role and your little ones. Because they all do really grow up much too fast.


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